And just like that, she left. It was the most beautiful gift she could give him. A lasting, unchanging memory of her in her fullest being; red lips, dark hair, spinning in the moonlight.
— F. Scott Fitzgerald
— John McRoy (http://readcontentmag.com/content/huge-insights)
1) More face time, less screen time
No phone use when hanging out with friends, especially during meals. I started feeling like the time I spent with my friends went by more and more quickly, when in reality, I was probably just getting distracted and paying less and less attention. The world can do without another picture of my chicken salad and I can do with more memories of my friends and family.
2) Stop thinking in straight lines
I’ve been known to be pragmatic to a fault. Always planning the next three steps and staying on the right path. This past year I’ve learned that even when you follow the plan, check off all the boxes and get what you planned for, what you want can change. And that’s okay. Careers aren’t linear. Relationships aren’t linear. Steady steps ahead make for a strong march, but a few side steps make for a dance.
3) Find flow
I recently read Drive by Daniel Pink which talks about human motivation, particularly as it applies to business and career choices. In it, Pink talks about the idea of “flow”, which can be described as the feeling a person gets when they are completely and totally absorbed in a task they enjoy. The task, or work itself is a reward. Sadly I haven’t felt this way in a long time, probably because I haven’t been pursuing the right career. I’m taking active steps to change this and will hopefully be going in the right direction this year.
4) Give more
This year, I had the opportunity to volunteer with two different programs in education, an issue near and dear to me. The first aimed to teach local community college students leadership skills and encouraged them to pursue 4-year bachelor’s degrees after graduation.The other was at a local low-income high school designed for young women returning to their educations after having children. Both programs taught me not only to better appreciate the opportunities that I have been blessed with, but that there are more ways to give than just donations.
5) Judge less
In general, I’d like to be more open minded. At 24, there’s still so much I don’t know, so much that I haven’t experienced, so much that I have yet to learn. I want to be more open to adventure. I want to be more open to things that are unfamiliar. Most of all, I want to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.